Tuesday, 26 July 2011

Life.....

As a part of the learning in life, we go through many institutions, many incidents (that we term learning experiences) and even many people (with their takes and insights on life). How much have we learnt from these and how much has this contributed in helping us cope with life?

As life goes on, the realization that all the fancy institutions and experiences may not help us to cope with certain incidents strikes me hard. At these moments, it is only the faith in god and the support of those who are dear to you that takes you through these moments...moments that seem insufferable.

So why is it that none of these fancy institutions do anything to teach us to cope? If you ask this, like I asked aloud and spend some time on the question, you will have the same realization that I did. All our schools and colleges play a major role and they do teach us to cope in many ways.  From making new friends, to defining priorities among friends, or to just deciding whether or not to take part in something,,everything makes us cope. there are instances when you decide to do something and it lands you into trouble at school or college and you have to cope with the situation of either getting punished or receiving a rebuke from parents or friends or even teachers.

As I look back, I find that most situations that I have found myself in and thought that I would never survive, I have survived. And as I look back, may be there are specific instances and incidents that can be counted...those that have helped me come out whole though not unscathed. But the things that stands out the most are the faith in god and support of dear ones, like I mentioned earlier.

 When these situations do happen one knows not what to do and where to turn. Will things be alright or will they get worse. These questions get compounded whether or not the situation was of your own making. And these questions and doubts go round and round in your head, making in impossible to think of anything else or do anything else. At moments like these, all you wish for ...is it to stop...atleast in your head. Sometimes you know that things are going to be alright but those games in you head just won't stop.

Very tempting isn't it, to put your hands to your ear and to scream at life and tell it that you won't play unless life makes the game fair. But life in never fair in the short run. Sometimes you have good luck and sometimes you don't. For somethings you have good luck and for some things you don't.

C'est La Vie!!! Have to take it as comes....

So at moments like this....remind yourselves as I remind myself...to take a deep breath....pray to God and count on your dear ones to be their for you....

Monday, 11 July 2011

Change....

I read somewhere,,,'Isn't it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back everything is different...'


When I read this statement, it seemed to be profound. It is just a simple statement...something we really don't ponder much on. But those moments that we realise that things have changed, these words make so much sense.

Why is it that we never discern the change as and when it happens.....But when we realize the change, the magnitude of that change leaves us speechless.

It reminds of the the book 'Who moved my cheese?' by Spencer Johnson.

When I read the book, I identified with both Hem and Haw with respect to the fears they had in accepting the change. But I also felt that regardless of what the change was, if it was really stark and staring me right at the face I would have acted like Scurry and the other mouse whose name I don't really remember.

But now I realise that things change and it is only when everything associated with it changes...that I even realize that things have changed. Confusing isn't it?

I guess I am not putting it down too clearly.

No matter how I look back to discern the moment the change began...I can't pinpoint the moment. As I look back now probably there were signs that things were changing but I guess those were small signs...signs that we don't usually look out for. And these small changes grow bigger and bigger until we can't help but accept that change has occurred.

So what happens next?

I hope at least the next time I realise when these changes happen...and I learn to accept these changes...